An Epiphany in the Middle of Mid Night

We are drawn towards people who are the opposite of us. Who balance us out in some way. I know I tend to get on well with people who are extremely strong, firm and decisive. I know I am extremely playful, whimsical and fun and I do get overwhelmed very easily. I am extremely efficient and organised (you might not believe it from reading my chaos blog - but actually in my work and planning I am an extremely organised woman and people often say I am one of the most organised people they have ever met! Were you expecting that??!). I work well with people who give extremely clear guidance, draw strong boundaries and are firm in their decisions.

Maybe because this is something I struggle with so much. We balance each other out. But I was thinking today about someone I work a lot with. And I thought of their communication style. Strong, clear, firm. No apologies. No justifications. Just clear strong boundaries (over slack). Clear on what they want, what they can do and what they can’t

What if that could be me

What if I didn’t have to over justify for everything

What if I didn’t have to over explain for everything

What if I made my boundaries clear 

My does and don’ts 

Without over justification

Without apologising

Respecting myself

Respecting my time and my worth

Giving myself the respect that I deserve 

What if I spoke in a way that wasn’t an apology

What if I was clear and firm and direct in my messages

Why can’t that be me too. I don’t have to be a stuttering person in every message

Do I? “Have pride.” This is what my friend Cezar used to say to me. Don’t be overwhelmed every time someone is kind to you or gives you attention (it’s been ten years and sadly that still hasn’t gone away Cezar).

Or am I maybe okay just the way I am? 🥰

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