Emotion Regulation

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Emotion Regulation 

I have written two blog posts about this now and I want to address it directly: if you are feeling upset, you should stop working. If you are feeling overwhelmed, you should stop working. If you are feeling tired confused frustrated all these things - you should take a minute to take care of yourself - and then you should only work again when you are ready to work. The crazy stress of my first couple of roles in engineering broke this healthy response in me - or maybe it was even just my first jobs in general where I was often upset from taking drastic customer calls 

And was just expected to keep on working. But I mean it probably broke long before when I went through really difficult stuff and that is beyond the scope of this blog post 

A wet blue and purple rose on a black background

What I have learned in healthy Product and Engineer Jobs though (I'm ex-product) is that it always pays to take a break. So if you are feeling upset, tired, and/or frustrated about your work - it is best to take a break first and come back to balance - and then you can keep on going. The buddhist version is - if you hold a glass of water high up for a long time - you get tired 
But if you put it down it gets possible to do again

I made a big mistake when I put my needs after my code
  • My need to eat and drink !
  • My need to plan out my work before I tackle it
  • My need to wrap up work before moving on
  • My need to process things 
  • My need to be emotionally regulated
Thank you 

Speaking of which I have had a rough day. I've processed this now. It doesn't matter how much I work as a software engineer. If I don't take care of myself it will never work out. Thank you 

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